Privates Decisions Impact Pub(l)ic Expectations

As a society, we should be concerned about men who are sexually aroused by prepubescent children. We should do all that we can to eliminate the sexual fetishization of children. We should fight to eliminate child pornography and child rape. Surely all reasonable people can agree that sexualizing children is a dangerous activity for a society.

And yet, through pornography consumption, we’ve raised two generations of people who feel that “bare down there” is the only acceptable state for sexually-desirable women. I believe it is time for women to decide to buck this system: to not conform to the standards seen in pornography and to not personally encourage their sexual partners to be aroused by bare vulvas. I believe that I—as a woman who doesn’t want to live in a world where men are aroused by naked 11 year old girls—have a responsibility to do my part to turn the tide so that men who prefer bare vulvas are rare rather than the norm.

One of the ways that the human body indicates sexual maturity is through hair growth: both males and females begin to grow pubic hair as the body sexually matures. For millennia, removing pubic hair was not considered necessary or generally desirable (of course there are exceptions—but it was not mainstream). For millennia, men were aroused by naked women who had pubic hair. They did not find pubic hair disgusting or bothersome; if they loved pussy, they loved hairy pussy. Hairy pussy was the only kind of sexually-mature pussy available.

There are of course many reasons why women choose for themselves to be bare. I’d argue however, that many of them can be addressed by careful garden tending rather than complete bush hogging or raz(or)ing. If you are in a committed relationship and your partner prefers bare, that’s fine. But him preferring bare doesn’t mean that you must accommodate his preference—if he loves you, he will learn to love your pussy even if it is different from what he’s used to or what he’s previously found arousing.

If you aren’t in a committed relationship, this change is fraught with opportunities to be embarrassed or ridiculed by new sexual partners. I don’t want to downplay the risk you’d be taking to go against the culturally-accepted grain. And yet, the more women we have saying “Nope, not gonna be bare, if you want to be intimate with me, this is what you get,” the fewer men who experience bare vulvas as the default. This means that we end up changing cultural expectations and preferences.

I believe that protecting young girls from sexual predation is worth us bucking the expectations that pornography has placed upon us. I believe that protecting young girls from sexual predation is worth us figuring out how to be physically comfortable with our pubic hair. I believe that protecting young girls from sexual predation is worth changing our grooming habits.


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